What are the expectations that you have set for what makes someone a good friend? Do they have to text you everyday? Be present for every problem that you go through? Support you and be a cheerleader in your life? What characteristics are essential in order for someone to be considered a
"real" and "good" friend because we complain about not having enough of them, but what is it that we really want out of our friendships with people? When I was younger, I thought that the more friends that I had, the better, but that is definitely not the case. For the most part, I have kept about three solid friends in my life that I have fell out with, made up with, fought the good fight with, and grew with and I am perfectly happy with all three of those friendships. I have learned over time that the smaller the circle, the better... especially when it comes to the people that you vent to. I never tell anyone every aspect of everything that goes on in my life.. but I do tell certain people certain things and withhold certain information because everything is not meant to share. I love my friends, but some of them I acknowledge cannot hold water, while others will hold it whether you are cool or not. I acknowledge that some of my friends I can talk about my relationship problems with, while others I cannot because they have never kept a steady relationship at any point in their life. For me, what would be a good friend in my eyes would be someone that would be there for me. Not necessarily physically, but there in a sense where if I need to talk, or someone to come through when necessary... Someone that would be able to stick through my side through my good and bad and motivate me throughout my journey. The female friends that will forreal support, not supporting in my face, but envying and hating behind my back. The male friends that will want a genuine friendship, not just a temporary friendship in hopes of getting some ass later on. I want.... a friendship where my friend can be honest with me regardless of how much pain it may cause me because they understand that it would be more pain in NOT telling the truth. What I have learned throughout gaining and losing relationships is that we as people have a natural habit of expecting people to be perfect, but we cannot be. Us ourselves are not perfect, but we look towards people to do everything right and never make mistakes. When I look for real friends.... I expect them to do for me as I do for them and except me as all that I am completely. Not halfway, not a little less than halfway, but completely. I saw a post asking the very question in this blog title and I just wanted to say a little something about it. So, what is it that YOU look for in a "good/real" friend?
"real" and "good" friend because we complain about not having enough of them, but what is it that we really want out of our friendships with people? When I was younger, I thought that the more friends that I had, the better, but that is definitely not the case. For the most part, I have kept about three solid friends in my life that I have fell out with, made up with, fought the good fight with, and grew with and I am perfectly happy with all three of those friendships. I have learned over time that the smaller the circle, the better... especially when it comes to the people that you vent to. I never tell anyone every aspect of everything that goes on in my life.. but I do tell certain people certain things and withhold certain information because everything is not meant to share. I love my friends, but some of them I acknowledge cannot hold water, while others will hold it whether you are cool or not. I acknowledge that some of my friends I can talk about my relationship problems with, while others I cannot because they have never kept a steady relationship at any point in their life. For me, what would be a good friend in my eyes would be someone that would be there for me. Not necessarily physically, but there in a sense where if I need to talk, or someone to come through when necessary... Someone that would be able to stick through my side through my good and bad and motivate me throughout my journey. The female friends that will forreal support, not supporting in my face, but envying and hating behind my back. The male friends that will want a genuine friendship, not just a temporary friendship in hopes of getting some ass later on. I want.... a friendship where my friend can be honest with me regardless of how much pain it may cause me because they understand that it would be more pain in NOT telling the truth. What I have learned throughout gaining and losing relationships is that we as people have a natural habit of expecting people to be perfect, but we cannot be. Us ourselves are not perfect, but we look towards people to do everything right and never make mistakes. When I look for real friends.... I expect them to do for me as I do for them and except me as all that I am completely. Not halfway, not a little less than halfway, but completely. I saw a post asking the very question in this blog title and I just wanted to say a little something about it. So, what is it that YOU look for in a "good/real" friend?
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