Serious question, is there anything wrong with the woman being more dominant financially in the relationship? Is there anything wrong with a woman picking up the checks? Offering the money? Basically doing all the things that have been placed on men to do? It may sound untraditional in a sense, but I do not mind swiping my card for a "man" that I think is worth my time. There is a difference between just giving money all willy nilly to any which guy, but what about someone that you are taking seriously and that you see a future with? I was raised to be an independent woman with my own money, that does not need to rely on a man for anything, so I have grown up to look at a man swiping his card on me all the time as something weird because I have the money to provide for myself. But then again, my grandmother is a traditional woman that is provided for, so she is one of the women that has talked to me and has expressed that it is okay for the man to do for you, just maintain a voice. I somewhat disagree because I really do not think that the man should pay all the bills, handle all the major responsibilities and be dominant in the relationship because.... why am I racking up loans each year just to sit at home and not use my degree? Why am I making all this money and keeping it to myself when he is making all his money just to have barely anything left for himself. My parents structured their union in a manner where bills were about 60/40, and I really wouldn't mind that. I find it challenging dating someone now that feels the need to be dominant financially, because I feel as if I can be dominant as well. I personally do not think that manhood could be questioned through splitting bills or me picking up the check, because a man deserves to be treated, too. A man deserves to be spoiled, catered to, and given money for gas/shopping, too if he is a good man to you. I think that women have a bad habit of being too reliant upon men when it comes to money, and I never want there to come a day when I have to be reliant upon a man to the point where I have to move based on how much he gives me. When I have took it upon myself to treat a man on a date, I have got the side eye, the crazy look, the debate over the bill because men are not used to women treating them on the dates that THEY ASK FOR. And afterwards, I find that men appreciate it every once in a while when a woman can return the favor, because half the time, they are content with staying in, watching a movie, and eating pizza, while women tend to want the things that require spending money. Women want to get dressed up and get Shrimp Scampi from Red Lobster, women want to go to the movies AND dinner, women want to try all these different places and just assume that the man is going to pay with over $600 in their pockets, it is ridiculous. What I have tried to do with my guy is instill within his head that it is okay to accept things on me without feeling like he is less than a man because he deserves to be treated to the things that other women may have never gave him before. I aspire to be different and make my mark in his life so that he understands what he will lose if he chooses to act up, in addition to keeping my independence at the same time.
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