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You Wanna Talk About One-Night Stands, Boo?

Here's what I think about one-night stands within my generation..... they are not possible. So, you meet this guy walking to your car, and yip yap pitty pat, he gets your number. You watch a few movies over the course of a few nights on campus and he feels like, at some point over the course of those nights, he can ask you for sex. He feels like because he's hung out with you for a week, it licenses him to say and do things out of turn. Like, asking to go down on you thinking that you're that type of woman and that-that question was even okay to ask.. or texting you in the a.m. as if neither of you had the whole day to hang out.... I don't do one-night stands. Once you crack that door open a bit to even let a man think that it is okay to treat you or talk to you like a one-night stand... you're in a whole different ball game. Number one rule for myself: DON'T ENTERTAIN MESSAGES LATE AT NIGHT ASKING TO COME OVER BECAUSE WE DO HAVE DAYLIGHT, TOO. College guys love to act like their busy throughout the whole time the sun is up, but once the darkness hits, they are free for any and everybody. Those late night invites are the reason why most one-night stands happen for my peers because we're "comfortable" and "bored". I make it clear when I meet a guy through that first interaction after him getting the number that we are not having sex, they try their best to use their words and charm to alter my opinion on it, but I will not be a one-night stand. I feel like, people intend on having one-night stands, that turn into something going beyond that one night. Women are very emotionally-attached creatures, and I know that if I were to take part in that, I would not be able to leave that action where it was. I would not be able to walk away feeling nothing for that person, because they seen a part of me that everyone is not lucky enough to see. Sex makes you highly vulnerable and I dislike people seeing me in a state of vulnerability. If I were to choose the person to see that side of me, it wouldn't be with drugs and alcohol in my system, or because I felt sad about what this or that guy had done to me before him.... I choose to not take part in one night stands because they happen most of the time due to irresponsibility. Most of us may take part in this and regret it later down the line, and if it can be avoided... I suggest trying your best to. Granted, you have your moments when you just want to have sex just to have sex, but what happens when you keep wanting to go back and that one night isn't left in that ONE NIGHT? Then comes the difficulties, questions, problems, complications... you know? Soooo.... I'd prefer to wait. Are the one-night stand applicants really even worth the body count....
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