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Status: Unknown

What are we? What are we doing, where are we going? What is the damn plan? ... because, I'm tired of waiting on you. I'm tired of being "the chaser" when it comes to love and I'm tired of basically beating a man down (not literally, of course) to figure out what his intentions are with me. Yes, you like me... yes you think I'm attractive and smart, ANDDDD? What does all that stuff mean is what I want to know? Do you like me, but you have intentions of pursuing other people before settling down? Do you like me, but you're scared? Are you lying about liking me at all?  I just need clarification and closure when it comes to you and I because, although I am twenty.... I have no room to waste my time. Falling in-love and staying in-love has always been something that I have strived for, I am literally in-love with the idea of love and if you're wasting my time.... you're preventing me from getting out there and finding exactly what it is that I desire. I hate the games, and the confusion, because... I have reached that point in my life and dating where I know what it is that I want to a tee, so it just blows my mind how others don't. You had all this time to play games, but it should be known and understood that I don't want to be apart of your games. What I want is consistency all across the board: Consistency in my career, consistency in my eating and exercise habits, consistency with my relationships.... Consistency with you. What you shouldn't expect me to do is sit around and wait for you to figure it out.... or sit around and allow you opportunities to make a fool of me until you actually do figure it out because, again, I DO NOT HAVE THE TIME. I respect a man a lot more if he can tell me what it is and what it ain't so that I know how to go about "us". So that I know to never take whatever it is that we're doing seriously, or maybe to take it seriously... I don't know. I can deal with a few weeks of our status being unknown, but after some time, understand that a deadline will then arise. Because, it is not going to take me another four and a half years of a headache to realize that my time was wasted and that you weren't the one. Understand that I take my time, heart, and relationships very seriously because love is something that I value. Understand that, although I may have grown to love you over time, if you're bullshitting about what it is that we're doing, I will cut you off. I may have lived through my last relationship allowing someone to walk over me and control my heart, but know that will NEVER happen again. If you come towards me, present yourself properly, and I hope that you know exactly what it is that you want because you're asking to join a life that is unfamiliar to you. The "you're mine, why do we need to put a label on it" types? I'll pass.... The "just going with the flow" types... pass. Because, I simply just have no more time for that anymore. Those two sayings are basically letting you know that they want you to be dedicated to them and them only, while they still have the opportunities to act single, and again, those are not games that I want to play. Simply put, I prefer to stay away from men that love to stay in this unknown status stage, because once you get in that stage, you're damn near stuck in it.

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