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I'm The Screenshot Queen: DM Message Talk...


Not meaning to set out EVERYBODY that comes in my messages, but some of yall need to be talked about. A little over a year ago, I decided to make a Facebook account, and of course with that, came the Messenger app. One of the biggest issues that I have with Messenger and Facebook in general is how easy and "okay" it is for people to post and say literally whatever it is that comes to mind. Let me explain:

The "I Have A Girlfriend, But I'm Still Gonna Slide In Your DM's" Type:  Okay, so this is the guy that we all pretty much see up and down our timelines all day broadcasting their women and their "perfect" relationships, meanwhile begging to be entertained in your dm's. My main problem with this type is the fact that, I know you're not available, YOU know you're not available, damn near all of Facebook knows that you aren't available and you're bold enough to come into my messages every day trying to convince me of otherwise. Like, what makes you think that I'm going to contribute to helping you do another woman out here wrong when I know damn well I wouldn't want that to be me. Regardless of you knowing how to smooth talk, talking about how much money you have, looking attractive, there is no way in hell you would get a chance because you already presented yourself on a bad note.

The "Ghetto/Gangbanger" Type:  One of the first things I pay attention to when I receive a message is the name that the person has. What never fails to blow my mind is how GROWN ASS MEN AND WOMEN can have ghetto and childish names on Facebook. Why is your name "Shoot 'Em Up Tony" and you're 25 years old, like... you're childish and need to grow up. Now, lets say they have an appropriate name on Facebook, then what? I go to their profile and see how they post and if they're one of those...call females bitches and talk about sex all the time types, PASS. Because, simply put, you need to grow up and if I'm a women trying to transition to a professional side, who I am with needs to be presentable as well and quite frankly, the ghetto types are just embarrassing. I don't want to even think about giving you a chance and you have a childish profile name, take pictures pointing guns, and talk about "bitches giving you head" all the time.

The "Horny and DGAF" Type:  So, I guess I can speak for most women when I say that sometimes late at night I get a random DM and open it up to some sad and unasked for type of "porn" from a thirsty little man that has nothing else to do. No need to even elaborate too much on this one besides "What type of woman do you think that I am?" That whole thing is a respect thing and it is no way that a man should feel okay just sliding in your messages like that and you know nothing about them, nor do you have an interest to know. It's disgusting and half the time, you embarrass yourselves coming in the DM's sending inappropriate pics because you LACK what you thought you had.

Those weren't all the types that I have experienced, but they were by far some of the most bothering and there needs to be some type of boundaries set. One thing that I know for sure is, I will not take any man seriously that comes into my direct messages because just about every guy has messed up it's purpose. Just some small conversation, though lol....
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