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To The Other Woman...

Shoutouts to Mackenzie for reposting a blog about someone's letter to their ex, which happened to inspire me to blog about this. I cant reiterate enough that the problems I have been discussing about my ex affairs are not current, they are just important for me to talk about because I want to be as open as possible when sharing my growth experience. So, its no secret that I have been cheated on... Well before my ex actually, and I just wanted to reference those women that knew of me, but still chose to take part in harming me anyway. For starters, you did NOT break me through your ignorance. As women, I feel like we should have enough self-respect and common sense to not involve ourselves with men that are not for us to take. Its one thing that the man wanted to do what he did, but the women need to take responsibility as well because most of them do know. From the start, I was never mad at the other woman, or other women because they are involving themselves with someone that was my own baggage. No one understands all that you go through until they are actually in that situation and I simply wish them well and my prayers for the life that they are about to walk into. Yes, you are about to walk into the life of a man that is inconsistent and lacks basic listening skills, good luck. Yes, you are sneaking around with a man that is unhealthily power hungry, good luck. Yes, you are wanting a man that expects you to do all his background work while he takes all the credit and climbs the ladder. I am far from mad at you, love, I'm just praying hard for you. I gained through losing what I thought was life itself and life is better than I ever imagined through that loss. Remember my blog on karma? I will never wish you or him harm,  just understand that everything comes back around full circle and you will lose him how you got him. As a woman, I will never place myself in a position to where I am disrupting the relationship of a man with someone else because imagine the pain that woman must feel not only knowing that there is a possibility of you, but  struggling to find out whether or not that is actually true and why. I questioned my character and beauty through trying to figure out if there was a you, and quite frankly, I never needed to because I am the best that he will never have again. No one will understand all that I did to contribute to making him who he was, and you may get to enjoy the luxuries that I may have built, but you definitely are not winning. I have sympathy for you for when you get close to this man just for him to do the same to you, all the while... I'm enjoying life. No, I never wanted to fight you, to curse you out, any of that because he is not the prize. I have my prize and I have my happiness and if I had to walk away from hell to get that, then it was the best decision that I ever made. I don't know why this is not common sense, but don't strive to be the "other woman" like its cute.  It's tacky, it's stupid, it's disrespectful and you hurt people throughout the process. I never wish the pain I experience on anyone, but I do hope that you one day see the faults in your actions, learn from them, and from then on...move accordingly.
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