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Understanding Your Worth & Respecting Your Wishes....


STOP ALLOWING PEOPLE TO SCREW YOU OVER. I tell myself this all the time, and still struggle with it. Why? Because I make excuses for people and believe in giving a few chances and I'm telling you and myself that those patterns have to stop, especially when the people and situations are toxic. What I have to recognize is that I am a prize... I am something to be earned, and I downplay that when I allow people to come into my life and bullshit around in it. I downplay my own worth when I mess with a guy that plays with my time, that says he wants to be with me, but without a label attached. I am not respecting my wishes when I allow friendships in my life that drain me of my own personal happiness. I am not respecting my wishes when I allow my own personal fears to prevent me from getting far ahead.... and I am definitely not understanding my worth and appreciating myself when I allow a man failing to be a man in my life to make me question myself. I learned that Leos are one of the LEAST confident zodiac signs and they are extremely hard on themselves and seek a lot of reassurance from others. I feel like that makes sense because I sometimes struggle with those things based on my history with how people treat me. When you sit up and count on your hand all the people you had to walk away from and lose over your short span of a lifetime, it actually is quite depressing. And, I have my times where I sit up and think to myself, "What is wrong with you?"... Why do they cheat? Why do they lie? Why are they deceitful? Why cant they support you? Help you? Love you like you love them... just WHY. Those questions really haunted me when I thought about it because I know what type of person that I am to the people in my life and you're telling me that only a few get the opportunity to have it and to see it? Over time, I have grown to understand "God's Plan for Briahna" and God's Plan for Briahna does not include everyone under the sun, and it  no longer includes shitty people because the lessons that he has intended to teach me have been taught and RECEIVED. Yes, sometimes I do want this person in my life that I may have invested a month or two in getting to know.... but the moment they start displaying patterns that are not acceptable... and God gives me those signs that are oh-so-obvious.... they are either not meant to be in my life, or not meant to be in my life the way that I intended and I have to accept that. I fail at giving myself the best opportunities when I make excuses for those people to continue to be in my life and cause harm. Although we may all think that we move day to day in a manner that respects ourselves, we sometimes naturally don't and the even crazier thing is ... sometimes we catch it and we still continue to allow it. When you sit up and wonder sometimes why things are going so badly back to back, or possibly not in the way that you want it to, consider what you may have done to contribute to it. Do we allow situations and people in our lives that cause us to rethink our worth and disrespect our own wishes? Do we allow people in our lives that abuse us over and over, just to recognize it, and still continue to allow it? What you should take away from this blog here is that respecting yourself is important and to not lose sight of that for ANYBODY. We have to look out for ourselves and allow the best in our lives, because that is what each and every one of us deserves. Recognize that although it may hurt to leave some situations and people behind, it is a reward at the end for doing so. Understand that questioning yourself and downplaying your worth for others is NEVER okay and we must be cautious of the people and things that have the capability to do those things. It is all about understanding your worth and respecting your wishes.




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