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Do As I Say And Not As I Do...

For my younger cousins, younger sister, and anyone else in my family that has ever watched the steps that I've taken in my life.... I make it a habit of telling them the right things to do regardless of if I did it or not. I have experienced dating in school, I tell them not to.. go get your education, first. I experienced drunken nights and nights of being high.... I recommend that they don't try it. For them, it is beneficial that I am the oldest because they can watch what I do from afar and learn either what to do, or what not to do. They can have someone give them advice on the things that they may not have experienced yet, in hopes that they make better decisions. I am the big cousin, the big sister, the friend, the girlfriend.. that tells you the things that you prefer to not hear, but NEED to hear. I am the person that you'll be mad at for a week because I gave you some much needed truth and tough love. For my younger cousins and sister, I try to go about each day in a way that can be motivational and inspirational to them. My sister and two younger cousins will all be graduating high school this semester and they have all heard my mouth about where they are going, what they intend to do, and how they will get there. It is important that they find their purpose and move each day effectively because our family doesn't have much education to fall back on. As the young ones of the crop, it is our job to learn from our aunts, great aunts, uncles, older siblings, and family friends so that we can learn and achieve all that they did and then some. It is our job to set the new foundation so that our kids can succeed up, their kids can succeed them, and so on. I am addicted to the idea of being successful, and that includes everyone else around me getting there, too. I have had my share of bad experiences and lessons learned, but I hope to have explained those situations and lessons learned good enough to the point where they wont ever have to experience them. I have been drunk at parties and forgot what happened the next night. I have gotten kicked out of my parents house twice. I have had to pay for college on my own. I have had my share of heartbreaks and dating older men. The things that I have experienced, I pray everyday that they don't. My message to them all is to listen, learn, and move smoothly and carefully as they enter the gates of life that I just left.
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