So.... we love to talk about sex in the sense where it provides us pleasure and allows us to get our issues off, but we run away from the topic when talking about HIV, teen pregnancies, and all those other STI's. I am currently writing a fifteen-page term paper on sex prevention and how to decrease teen pregnancy rates, and quite frankly, this topic is something that I am passionate about. When I was younger, my mother sat me down and had a five word conversation with me about sex that consisted of, "Sex hurts, don't do it." lol. When she told me that, I listened, but as a teenager, I also was attentive to what my girlfriends said when most of them stated that it was the exact opposite. All of the women around me have pretty much already given their virginities away before I even considered losing mine and for some reason, I looked to them for justification on whether or not this process was painful. Although it sounds foolish, now, that is how most freshmans in high school, and possibly middle schoolers think as well. Part of the reason why I maybe sought out advice from my peers was that I felt like it was unrealistic to talk to my mom about it. As a new teenager (13-15), going up to your mom on a random day asking about sex would result in hour long lectures and possibly punishment, because she was definitely going to tell your dad about it and he was definitely going to get upset and you were 100% SURE that trouble would result from one simple question. What I appreciated most about my child development courses in high school, was that I had the chance to experience the baby and experience having speakers come in and tell me the reality about what all sex can result in. The baby provided me with an experience that made it certain that I would not have a child YEARS from that time, and the speakers put more fear in me than my parents ever did. Do you remember the ever-so-classic example that they displayed where they called about seven students up in a line, had them all chew something and spit it in a cup, and poured each cup into one another just to show the realities of sex? Basically, who you sleep with, you are sleeping with all the people that they slept with, and who they slept with as well....it just keeps going down and that example was something that I always remembered. One of the realities about having sex in this day and age is that, most men will do whatever is necessary to convince you that a condom is not necessary, and most of them do not inquire about whether or not you are on birth control. I also think that it is a woman's responsibility to keep condoms on her as well, because having something is better than having nothing at all. If we do not ask the basic questions like: do you have a condom, can you use a condom, did it break, when was the last time you got tested? Are we really being sexually responsible? Because wishing that we would have done those things after developing herpes does NOTHING at all. My mother taught me a lot more about sex as I grew up, and some of the things that I am saying now are some of the things that she has taught me. The reality is, if someone has an everlasting condition due to sex, and they want to have sex, they are most likely not going to tell you because they are looking to get their issue off. We are often so quick to have sex, that we do not take the time to actually know or care for a person before doing so, and that is why they may not feel inclined to tell you what they may or may not have. It is still a very present issue today with us young adults being sexually irresponsible, which is why our rates of unplanned pregnancies and STI's are increasing every single year. Let's take responsibility and if you cannot sustain from sex, the least you can do is be responsible about it because you are stuck in your own body, there are no exchanges or returns.
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