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You Know That Guy, After The Guy, That You Thought Was The One....

It's something funny about the guy that has always been present while you were in relationship. The one that stood behind the scenes and waited to show his face until the exact moment where you became single....It's the guy that you cried to, never lied to, the one that could see right through you when you tried to keep a tough face and pretend like everything was fine. It's the guy that was systematic and the guy that built a friendship with you first so that you would love him prior to him broadcasting his feelings for you, it's the guy that you will always be grateful for. This man was six years plus mine, and I give partial credit to him for helping me to move on. I give credit to him for calling me on my crap and constantly reassuring me that I was right to do better for myself. This guy was my friend for the longest time, that eventually became the one that I'd give my all to. Whether a future is in store for us or not as a couple is up in the air, but the love and appreciation that I have for him is certain. The friendship that we developed prior to the long nights spent together and the kisses and hugs will forever stand and will forever be cherished. Moving on from a damaged situation  can be difficult and sometimes it takes the little push towards the end of that process to let you know that it's okay and that things will be fine. This man was my push. This man was my reality check. I had been used to the college-educated, athlete, buff darker-skinned types, and prior to him, I had been picky about what it was that I liked... "that guy, after the guy, that I thought was the one" was none of what I described. He was uneducated, he was not as financially stable, he was older, he was thinner, his hair was different... but he cared for everything that I was and stood for. He took in the baggage and all and loved me regardless. Through him, I learned that love can come in all shapes and forms and those descriptions of that perfect man for me could not be the description of the perfect man that God has for me. He was uneducated, but knowledgeable. He was not financially stable, but he was rich in other ways... He was older, but he was wiser. He was thinner, but just as warm to the body and longer hair, but that made him unique. This man was my reality check, and he was my blessing in more ways that he knew until now, but "that guy, after the guy, that I thought was the one" gave me a type of love and friendship that I will always be grateful for and will never forget.
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