One of the most challenging parts of my life was not applying for college, getting dropped off for my first day of college, or fitting in for college. I found one of the most difficult aspects of college was going through the journey of finding myself surrounded around unfamiliar people, new difficulties, and unfamiliar surroundings. My mother experienced maybe a semester of community college, but as far as that, I am a first-generation college student. With that being said, I could not ask some of the most knowledgeable people in my life how to deal with the challenges that I faced in college. In high school, I was a straight A and B student that turned out to be an average student when college hit. You go from never failing a class to barely passing a college class, convincing yourself to skip a day due to partying the previous night, and trying to keep your sanity while balancing friendships and relationships along the way. It was not until this very semester of college that I found out exactly what type of woman I strive to be for the rest of my life. It was not until I experienced two heartbreaks, too many scenarios of me making stupid decisions, educational failure, and financial difficulty that I realized exactly what my parents told me when they said that I have been living in a naïve, fantasy land. I always said that I understood what heartbreak was and what struggling was, but I never REALLY got the idea of it until it happened to me and it changed how I viewed life and how I conducted myself since then. I believe that although my parents and grandparents never experienced college in the same way that I have, they still were able to pass down lessons and advice to me that helped me throughout the difficult journey. If I could take away one lesson from them, it would definitely be to not lose myself trying to fit into groups that are not contributing to my overall greatness and growth as a woman. To never let a guy steer me off my track to greatness, nor other college distractions (partying, alcohol, drugs, etc). It is important that from the moment I realized that, I never lost sight of my purpose to do just that.
Girlfriends was by far one of the best television shows that I grew up watching, and still watch to this day... and when I think about the type of women/social circle that I would like to be around, Joan, Toni, Mya, and Lynn is exactly what it would look like. I remember starting off the sixth grade and traveling up until high school with a huge social circle filled with all these different types of girls and young women with varied personalities, values, and beliefs. Throughout that time, my social circle remained large, but there were some tweaks here and there and some people were not meant to last. What I mean is, we outgrow some relationships, we drain out some relationships, and we sometimes stop putting forth the effort to keep up effective relationships. Over the course of those years, I developed a lot of meaningful relationships and developed a slight sense of what type of people I wanted to be surrounded by. One of the major adjustments that I had throughout graduat
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