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That Nasty Word Called.... "Regret"...

Regret is one of those words that I have done a great job avoiding over the past few months, because it is not one that I enjoy to use. When we state that we regret situations, people, whatever.... we are disagreeing with the paths that were constructed specifically for us. We were meant to meet that person that embarrassed us, or broke our hearts. We were meant to experience that hangover in order to know to not drink Patron again, better yet, to not drink at all again... Everything happens for a reason and I tell people that, we cannot question why those things happened because we are supposed to walk away from those situations and people with lessons learned. We are supposed to grow from those situations and people that we like to label as "regrets" in order to make better decisions in the future. If you label something as a regret, you have not understood the lesson that was supposed to be learned from the situation that you were just in. Despite being in pain, being embarrassed, and/or sad.... you must refrain from this word. I have had my own share of bad experiences, and I was one to say that I regretted making this decision, or running into this person on that day, but it all happens for a reason and I cannot stress that enough. Be mature and knowledgeable enough to understand why things happen in the order and way that they do so that you can go about future endeavors in a more responsible and beneficial way. I also think that if you take the time to actually sit and think before you speak and act on those bad situations, that you will understand that the situation was bad, but you will also put together the pieces to understand "What can I learn and take away from this?"
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