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College Difficulties: Two Times (For My High School Viewers)


Choosing a college requires more time and preparation than my parents or high school educators could have ever told me. I started looking at universities as young as my sophomore year of high school, but I feel as if I was still unprepared and needed more time. To this day, I feel as if I made the wrong decision in my college choice, but I try to make the best of it. One thing that I would like to pass on to my high school viewers is that, if college is the route you want to take, you have to take the time to actually visit the schools you're interested in, do your research on those schools, and put in the work to get FREE MONEY. When I started looking up colleges, I did so with the intentions of keeping my relationship together, which is something that I do not recommend for anyone. When you look into colleges, with not only your grades and qualifications, but someone else's as well, college searching becomes a lot harder because what if a school that you want accepts you, but declines your partner because their grades and qualifications are not good enough. If I did not have those responsibilities of putting in the work for us both, I would have been at a university that I enjoyed and created more memories at. It is important that as you choose your college, that you choose it with the intentions of being there for four years and that you love a lot about it, because your college choice will become your new home. It is important that you attend that school for you because you have the rest of your life to be in relationships, and it was true when my parents said that, if he loves you, he will be okay with you going here and he will wait. When you look into colleges, start as early as possible trying to get free money, because loans may not seem all that important when you're seventeen in high school, but when you're twenty and almost finished with college with over $5,000 + that you have to pay back, you are going to wish that you had that free money. There is a lot of free money out there that people are unaware of because they do not take the time to simply google or ask questions. I wrote numerous essays over the course of two years in attempts to get free money, because even though my parents said that they would pay my loans, things can change and they are NOT REQUIRED to do so. On top of that, I encourage you to not be intimidated by loans and to not make that the reason why you choose to get educated because educational loans are a good investment if you: 1. Choose a stable and smart career field .. and 2. Look for internships well before you graduate to get yourself a stable job well before you are required to pay back your loans. College has been my number one stressor over the past three years, but it has also been one of my top blessings as well. As you prepare for this journey, the best thing that you can do is take responsibility and prepare for it with you leading and everyone else supporting, because that is exactly how college will be when you get there.... You leading the journey and everyone else slightly behind you supporting.

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