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Sooooo, You Said You Wanted To Take Me On A Date???????


What the hell happened to old-fashioned and traditional dating? Like.... I appreciate a man that can actually call me, a text would also be fine, and ask "Can I take you out on a date?", lol. Like, do not talk to me about this movie coming out and assume that just because we talked about how good it was gonna be, that it equates into you asking me to go out on a date. I NEED THE WORDS. When I had my guy friends come around my family, date or not, they said to always look for the man to open all doors, and I look for that naturally now, even though I thought it was a bit much when I was younger. On a date, if YOU ask ME out, I expect you to have money to take me out.... I do not expect to come out of pocket and you were the one that had interest in taking me out and getting to know me. Dating is kind of like that re-evaluation that you may have to do for your job every so often for your employer to determine whether or not you should keep your job, lmao... Now, let me back up a minute, I do not mind treating men out on dates and coming out of pocket, but I shouldn't be the main one coming out of pocket, though. I value a man refraining from cellphone use while on a date, because we really don't need Snapchat or Facebook to comment or "like" on our union and interaction. I prefer your attention, and most importantly, eye-contact and touch. The flirting and beauty of the "date" is interrupted when you answer a call that was unimportant, check your Facebook feed, or respond back to a snap. I have went on my share of dates over the past months, and every one of them, with the exception of two, had a few moments where they stopped our interaction to respond to snaps.... and then you just sit there and look around all confused in these heels that hurt your feet and these clothes that may be a tad bit too tight. I think its safe to say that, for women, we put forth a lot of effort to go out on dates, especially when it is with someone new and we haven't dated in a while... so the least a guy can do is pay attention for the time being. I love the process of getting prepared for dates, as well, so when I actually do finish with the different layers of lip covering, decide on the 5th out of ten outfits tried on... and walk out that door to meet you. It would be nice to be told how nice I look. Some of the things I say sound like common sense to me, because I would do it all if I were a man, but finding men to do these things is seeming to be so rare. I just wish that we could go back to valuing old-fashioned, go out at 8, be back by 10, traditional dating.
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