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No "Debby Downers" Welcome ....

One thing that has become a new goal in the every day life of mine is to have and spread positivity. When you clear your mind of negativity and clear your environment of bad influences and bad energy, the sky becomes bluer than it normally is. The air becomes better than it once was before, and you see things a lot clearer than you once did. I take numerous classes that provide me with a diverse educational background at my university, and being positive provides a lot of benefits for the body. When you rid yourself of negativity (whether it is things, people, or places), you find yourself having more energy, being less tired, and smiling more, for example. You find yourself quickly avoiding the things that can gravitate you away from that happy place because you understand the benefits to having positivity all around you. For me, I found things to be more in my favor once I stopped being negative as a person, and allowing negativity to be around me as well. At a point in time, I enclosed myself in this black "negativity bubble" because I wanted to be alone and stay in a bad place. I wanted to push people away, which is exactly what having negative energy does to people, otherwise known as being a "Debby Downer". No one wants to be around a person that is always spreading negativity, because seeing the bad in things and people can be addictive for some of us. It is not healthy to be negative because we let ourselves go in more ways than we realize when we feed into that Grinch Syndrome. If you can take anything away from this post, just remember to TRY your best to be positive and spread positivity each day...because it can help you and/or someone else. Being a negative person has the ability to do nothing but destroy you and the things around you, so as long as you TRY your best to steer away from that, things will definitely start turning up for you. As far as the people around you, I found my life to be less stressful and more gaining to love people from afar who have tried to place negativity into my life. I have stopped doing the things that have given me bad energy, and took on the things that have provided me with happiness and positive energy. If you truly love yourself, respect yourself, and are being responsible about YOURSELF, keeping the things around you, the energy around you, and the people around you positive should not be questionable or as difficult as it may seem.

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