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Speak It Into Existence: Clap Two Times For Moving On!

How do you know that you have moved on from a situation and/or person? When you can speak positively on their name and wish them the same type of success and happiness that you wish upon yourself, your friends, and your loved ones without sarcasm and malice. It was easy for me to have said that I have moved on, but you do not really move on until you STOP saying that you have moved on, lol. For example, if you have to constantly say that you are not thinking about somebody, obviously you are if you feel the need to keep mentioning that person, so stop speaking those thoughts and that person into existence. Moving on takes time, and really, it takes even more time when you try to rush it. It addition to that, when you rush it and add more people into the equation (such as one-night stands and rebounds), you do nothing but complicate feelings that were already disorderly and confused. You find yourself "moving on" when you can see symbols of that person, and that person, and still maintain a smile on your face and are genuine about that smile. It is when your walking pace is not altered, your mood is not flustered, or your overall energy is not damaged due to the sight and mentioning of this person. When you are serious about being in a better place and WANTING to move on, that will be spoken into existence. The only reason that some of us take so long to move forward is because we drag our feet throughout the process wanting to savor those moments and being fearful of the unknown, otherwise known as change. You have moved on when you can clap at that person's successes and speak no ill will on their name. I feel like, as long as you can stay positive, none of these things will be difficult to do.

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